In our society today most women have been led to believe that in order to attract men, they need to be physically good looking, extremely thin, have blonde hair and big breasts. The issue with this is that very few women meet these criteria, leaving the majority to feel as though they don't measure up as a real woman.
But is this really the truth about what men want in a woman? I (as a man) would have to completely disagree with this so-called "truth". My personal preferences actually differ markedly from the description given above: I would rather have a curvy brunette, with average sized breasts any day. And other guys I have talked to are of a similar view, except that to them hair color is not usually a huge issue.
So, do you want to know the real truth about what men want in a woman? Well it would be something like this: a woman who is at least decent from a visual perspective, has confidence, is fun to hang around, brings little drama, appreciates her man, and finally she is feminine and allows him to be the man.
In case you are not totally convinced by this, I will discuss each of these points in detail: starting with physical beauty, this is usually something that is treated as a bonus by guys - there are many more important things than looks, even though our culture tells us otherwise. Yes, looks may give you an initial advantage over other women because this is what men see first. However, physical beauty will not convert into long-term attraction, unless you bring a number of other desirable qualities to the table. What it will do though is cause men to want to have sex with you, and nothing else. Having only physical beauty means that men will only want to be intimate with you physically. But having other attractive qualities means that they will desire intimacy with other parts of you (eg. your heart and mind).
In addition to this, another important point to realize is that what is attractive from a physical perspective is extremely subjective. Every man will like something different in a woman. For example, some like short women, some like tall women, and others like women of an average height. Some men like women with big breasts, some like average-sized ones, and others like small ones - I did actually know a guy who loved small boobs! What you do need to do though is make sure that you look your best, whatever you have to work from. This does not mean that you have to go overboard in your effort such as spending three hours in the bathroom before you go out every day. What it does mean though is that you take care of yourself, so that you are clean and tidy, wear clothes that complement your figure and appearance, and live a healthy lifestyle (eg. eat a healthy diet, exercise regularly, get enough sleep, and minimize stress).
Secondly, to men confidence is a very attractive quality in a woman. This is an important component in her to being fun to hang around. By contrast, women who have low confidence, low self-esteem, those who are extremely shy, or who are generally just depressed and down are not fun to be around. Men, like most people in general, want to associate with those who have a genuine confidence about them and help raise them up to a greater level - not those who pull them down and cause them to feel bad.
Thirdly, men are generally highly attracted to women who are happy and smile frequently, those who are laid-back and relaxed, find pleasure in trying different things, and those who enjoy flirting and having the odd play-fight with their man. These are all things that make a woman fun to hang around.
Fourthly, the vast majority of normal, everyday men have a definite disliking of drama in their lives. Because of this they will tend to steer clear of women who would bring it to them. Drama queens would need to be extremely physically attractive to even get a look it - but it probably won't be for long.
Fifthly, two things that men absolutely crave from women are appreciation and approval. If you give him these, he will most likely become blind to lack of physical beauty and many personal faults that you have.
Sixth, men are attracted to women who are feminine and let them be the man. In very simple terms, this means that the majority of the time you give him space to lead, and then you follow. To give some examples, you wait for him to ask you out, you let him plan dates and activities for the two of you, you allow him to organize travel plans, and then down the track you let him propose to you (if the relationship gets to that point). It is very important though that you don't interfere by nagging, snatching the ball from him and running with it yourself, or by offering unsolicited advice. And you definitely must not criticize his efforts or complain about how something turns out. When you do any of these things, a man will subconsciously interpret it as a questioning of his masculinity. It is very similar to how you would feel if he told you that your favorite dress makes you look fat or ugly.
What I would suggest that you do instead is when your man makes a mistake or his efforts result in a disaster, try to see the funny side to it, or appreciate him for at least trying. However, make sure that you don't say or do anything that he could construe as a sign of disapproval or disappointment. And this includes in your body language and facial expressions, which he would probably detect very quickly - it is generally quite easy to tell when a woman is not happy about something.
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