Relational Power for Social Confidence

This is one of my favorite topics because if you look for it, it's elusively all around us and yet is one of the greatest keys to power itself;

it's who YOU are and how you behave in relation to all other power.

It's YOUR true relationship to all representative power itself (and this includes celebrity, popularity, power, money, sex, beauty).

That is the key to whether others can trust you to open up to you and begin a new relationship. They're unconsciously looking at you to see what kind of true relationship you have with them.

That's the REAL test for those people letting you in or not, otherwise you won't be able to stay around them for long.

Those who keep their power earn respect and more power. Those who give it up are at the shallower end of (upcoming) the gene pool.

Do you think that a Tom cruise could truly trust an autograph-seeking fan? Could he give away details of his life to them?

I mean it's quite clear who has the power in that situation. No, he's going to sign his autograph, maybe do a quick chat and leave. That relationship is quite limited because it's essentially a stimulus-response relationship.

Unless that other person is equal in relational power or has some value to offer, he's not going to open up to that person.

Power looks for it's equal and power is above those who acknowledge it's social place.

So why do men keep approaching any and all beautiful women as if they're obviously aware of her power but he's just wanting a quick fix (throw a pick-up line out/get an autograph and then be ultimately rejected)?

It's astounding isn't it?

Pre-Dating or the phase before 'anything' ever happens is really just a relational power game. Yet that's the reason why men fail to establish relationships with sexy and beautiful women.

They've already given up their power to the women and it's quite obvious. Either through his body language or his nervous energy in communicating with her, he's not aware of the true reason why he's not succeeding.

She's the stimulus (as society promotes) and she DOES have power (socially), but he's the response. ANY type of relationship WILL be limited. She can't view him as a sexual interest because she clearly cannot trust him from the get-go.

No amount of him explaining himself is going to do it either. He either has power in relation to her or he doesnt'. Doesn't matter if he's a guy who is comfortable in his own skin around his buddies; what matters to her is his relation to her.

He has to be her equal in relational power or greater in order for her to even trust him so they can begin a relationship.

When he DOES have 'the power' and keeps it so that he can connect and behave interdependently with other people of power as true equals, THEN he has the strongest interpersonal skillset; his nonverbal body language will be saying all the right things without trying.

Fortunately for men; relational power itself is also VALUE. Because if you're strong enough to be one of the few men in her adult life that doesn't have a physiological reaction to HER level of social status and power (and she realizes it which she should), she's going to be interested.