For those of you who have been following my articles, you know I'm all about the delicious, tongue lashing better known as fellatio, but don't be fooled, dirty talking has it's own unique place in the world of all things considered orally pleasurable.
Dirty talk - just the phrase alone will either give you a sexually charged shiver, or have you running for the prudish comfort of missionary position and flannel nightgowns. Perhaps I'm not being fair, I mean afterall, we've all been brought up to be "respectable", to "think before you speak" and now we're in this "politically correct" phase that seems to just not quit. Yes, there are times when holding your tongue is the RIGHT thing to do...but during a hot night of passion with your lover, or when you're on the edge of the most groin bursting orgasm of your life?? Seriously? I can't imagine!
Like any other thing in life worth doing, dirty talk takes a bit of practice. A vivid, healthy imagination helps too. Working your way up the obscenities ladder may take some time. A good start would be by not saying anything dirty at all, specific yes, but not dirty. Telling him how much you enjoy the feel of his fingertips against the small of your back, or how excited you feel by the certain look she has in her eyes when she kisses your inner thighs. Not only will small steps like this help you to feel more comfortable with communicating your pleasure and wants (which is basically was dirty talk IS), but it will be a huge ego rush for your lover as well.
Another way of practicing is through sex texting. Sending your lover naughty little messages throughout the day. Letting him or her know you're thinking of them and can't wait until you have your hands on them again. Letting him know the smell of his colgne the night before aroused you, or you loved the way the short dress she wore last weekend showed off her lean, sexy legs. Again, take small steps, keep it G-rated for starters. The beauty of sex texting is that you won't actually be facing your partner, giving you a chance to feel a bit more relaxed.
Pay close attention to your partner's reaction. If the reaction is favorable, you can then become a bit more graphic, taking your next step up the dirty talk ladder. If your partner seems to be offended, then you might want to consider backing off a bit, but I would then suggest opening up the lines of communication. Find out just where he or she stands on the subject of dirty talk, and then see if there is another route to sexual gratification they would like to explore.
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