Abstinence Dating - 10 Reasons Why it Works and How it Can Work For You!

To answer the question, "'why abstinence works," most cry out against unwanted pregnancies, STDs, and abortion.

These are valid reasons. But there are more gut wrenching, life-changing emotional issues involved -- emotional issues that can destroy relationships and marriage and can taint a woman's sexual enjoyment for the rest of her life -- Blocking sexual enjoyment with a heavy load of emotional baggage because trust and respect has been violated.

Here's Keri's story:

Keri and John met in Junior High, 7th grade. By 8th grade they were inseparable. Though classmates were dabbling in sex, Keri and John were abstinent. But as the years progressed, John became more and more insistent. Keri stood firm and wanted to wait until her wedding day.

Then it happened.

Celebrating John's 18th birthday, the young couple drank wine coolers. It was just enough alcohol to dull senses and heighten libido. John said he loved her and they would be together the rest of their lives....

Naturally, Keri believed him; after all, they had been together throughout high school.

Then the missed period and she found herself PREGNANT the very first time she had sex. She was stunned and ashamed. But the worst was yet to come...

John's denial. The baby wasn't his. No way was this his responsibility.

It was the ultimate Betrayal.

At 17 years of age, Keri had a nervous breakdown and attempted suicide. She recovered, but that was not the end of the story. Two years later she married a fine man who adopted the baby and made a fine home for them.

All was well... EXCEPT IN THE BEDROOM.

For the next 20 years, she hated having sex because the earlier betrayal had permanently damaged what should have been the beauty of having sex with someone you love and trust. In her mind she could not overcome the betrayal of uncommitted sex.

So why does abstinence work? It's a safeguard not only against unwanted pregnancies, but more importantly a safeguard against damaging emotional turmoil.

Other reasons why abstinence works is that sex is too volatile to play with, especially for teens and young women. They don't have the maturity to cope with its complexities. They play with fire and get burned. Even mature women experience the painful aftermath of uncommitted sex.

Now for Single Women of all ages, especially those out in the dating game today where sex is expected just because...

Notice 10 reasons why abstinence works below:

1. Sex could become the central focus of the relationship, like an addiction. At that point focus is not on building the relationship, it becomes primarily satisfying sexual desires. When that dies down, what do you have? 2. If you're hurt too many times, you might miss out on something great because of being afraid of being hurt again. 3. You don't want sex to lose meaning and value so that you feel "sexually bankrupt." 4. Sexual relationships are harder to break up even when you know you should. 5. Having sex too soon can sabotage a budding romance before it gets off the ground because the man will think you are easy and won't stick around to get to know the "real" you. 6. Building a relationship in other ways is far more important. 7. You don't want to feel used. 8. Having too many sexual partners can cause you to lose respect for yourself. 9. You lose the chance to experience the "first time" with someone who really cares for you.

10. Sex is better in a secure, loving committed relationship/marriage.

Finally, when two people wait until they are ready, it makes for a happier and healthier relationship. There is more trust, less emotional baggage, and more respect. And studies have shown that when people practice abstinence they are happier as adults, more successful in life and more financially successful as well.