Learn the truth about sex after pregnancy.

Illness

When you've been diagnosed with a life-altering disease, you're not expected to want to jump in the sack until you're well on your road to recovery. Once you get there, you may not be physically able to have sex, but you can set the stage for future intimacy by asking your doctor how long the effects of your illness and treatment will last. You can also spend this time communicating with your partner so your emotional connection stays strong and you're both aware that your relationship is not to blame for your current lack of sexual spark. “Your most important step now is getting over your illness,” says Dr. Queen. “The fuller your recovery, the more sexual pleasure will organically play a part in that.” After your doctor gives you a clean bill of health, know it may take time to reignite your libido—especially if your illness was linked to your reproductive organs. “Talking to a counselor can help you process how your illness has affected your body image or relationship,” says Rose Hartzell, PhD, a sex therapist at San Diego Sexual Medicine in San Diego, California. “And masturbating alone and experimenting with your partner can help you get to know, accept and embrace your altered sexual self.