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Job Loss

When you first learn you’ve been laid off, you may be too stressed about finances—and by the blow to your sense of self—to respond to sexual overtures. So how do you get your mojo back after receiving a pink slip? “While you’re looking for new work, recreate yourself outside of what you do for a living,” recommends Dr. Hartzell. “Pursue old hobbies, explore new ones, get involved in your community and take joy in reinventing yourself. Studies show that if you boost your confidence and sense of accomplishment, this will in turn boost your sex drive.”

Foreclosure

Losing your home can shatter your sense of self, but once the initial shock subsides, there are ways you can get over the stress and depression and open yourself up to having sex again. You can enjoy date nights that are intimate yet still affordable, such as an evening spent making a candlelit dinner together. You can also foster closeness by working with your partner to develop a list of ways to simplify your life and to prevent further financial problems. “Gaining control over money can help you regain your sense of self and your sense of sexuality,” says Dr. Hartzell, as can gaining control over your physical space. Even if you’ve had to move in with in-laws or find roommates, figure out where—and when—you and your partner can still enjoy sex. “Make sure the place you’re now living has space for you to celebrate your intimate relationship,” says Dr. Queen. “And note that this is a great way for you to christen your new home.